Tuesday, March 17, 2009
Life altering decision?!
My husband and I have been trying for a baby for about 2 1/2 years. I have tried to not concentrate too much on the fact that it hasn't happened yet. Everyone has a story about someone they know who has tried or been trying for that long or longer. The story's are great, but that doesn't help me. I have always put this in God's hands. I have always been a believer in the belief that if it is God's will, he will make it happen. But man the wait is frustrating, agonizing, heartbreaking, and so many other emotions. For the last few months I have been praying for answers. Over the last few days the thought of adoption has come into my mind. I have always said that I would never do IVF or other in-depth fertility treatments. There are many factors as to why, maybe that will be another blog. I don't look down at those people that have them done, that was the right decision for them and I don't feel it is the right decision for me. But I also have reservations about adoption. I know most of those would be answered with a good support group or being able to talk to other people who have been thru the process. One reason adoption has come into my mind lately is because with adoption I am guaranteed to end up with a child. If I undergo some fertility treatment, a child is not always the end result and then we would have to spend more money to adopt. I guess what I am saying is with fertility options, there is no guarantee, with adoption there is. Also, is it possible to love an adopted child as if it were your own? Maybe that sounds silly, I dont know. I decided tonite that I would start to look into the process of adoption on the Internet. So right now I am on information overload. I was talking to someone at work today. He told me that one of his daughters just gave birth to a little boy. His daughter was adopted by him and his wife when she was 5 months old. They actually adopted two girls. Well, his daughter gave birth today and this child was actually conceived by IVF. This was her 5th attempt at IVF. Each IVF costs, roughly, $20,000. OK, you do the math...I definitely still have ALOT to think about.
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